It’s good to think ahead more than usual at this time. There’s no need to hoard things, but have some back-up food and supplies in storage, And, if you rely on a medication, have an extra script filled for peace of mind. Make sure the car is registered and so on. Make a list or keep a calendar of all the things you need to know about for the next 1-3 months like medical appointments or bills to pay. Keep a list of important phone numbers or contacts and help others to do the same, especially older people who may become more isolated or stressed during this time.
It’s OK to be stressed and worried about the virus. It’s normal to want to protect our families, communities and cultures. What’s not so good is to bottle it up. It’s better to recognise how we are feeling, talk about our fears and worries and get it off our chest. That way we can build up our strengths. Remember, we are all in this together. And if you get really down or feel upset all the time, seek support from a friend, family, health worker or doctor, including talking to a doctor or counsellor on by phone, Skype or by video-link (see a list of free services at the end of this tip sheet). The Australian Government has also established a website to connect people to mental health support: https://headtohealth.gov.au/.
At some time, the virus will come under control and life will return to something like normal. It’s important to remember this and have hope, even as we prepare to cope with what is ahead. Staying at home, not seeing our Elders, behaving differently - it may last a month, it may last many months, but it will end. Keep a focus on all the good things you can do to stay healthy in mind, body and spirit.
As peoples, we have faced many, many battles before and survived. Think about our ancestors’ strengths and where we have come from. Think about your strengths too, and those of the people around you. Focus on what makes you, your family and community strong for the journey ahead. Culture is stronger than the virus - even though our roles and responsibilities might be challenged by the need to stay indoors and physically apart from each other. We can still be culturally, spiritually and socially connected. Do what you can to keep culture strong, and let culture keep you strong. There might be opportunities too – the time to learn language, stories or dances or to learn from Elders in ways that don’t involve visiting them and putting their health at risk. Remember, our ancestors are always with us.
It’s important to stay informed, but if the news or TV is stressing you out turn it off for a while. And make sure what you’re reading and watching is reliable, so you don’t waste time worrying about things that aren’t true. You may need to help your kids with this too. Redirect their time and attention to things that help.
When you are outside, you need to keep two big steps away from other people to stop the virus spreading, and you shouldn’t visit other people. But you can still yarn on the phone, on Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp, Messenger and so on. Keep in touch that way. And if you need to talk to an Elder or older person, call them – don’t visit! Share things with friends and family or connect as a group together online. Be creative, share recipes, try a cooking or exercise challenge with friends, share stories, have a laugh and keep connecting.
Try to get some fresh air. Go for a walk if permitted but remember to keep at least two big steps from anyone outside. If you’ve got a garden or balcony - use it. If you can’t go out, find new ways to exercise at home – it will help with the stress. There are plenty of work out, yoga and exercise videos on-line – search video sites like YouTube until you find one you like.
Think about what you’re eating and try and eat well - plenty of fruit and vegetables, can make a big difference to how you feel. Some foods also help to boost your immune system so try some new foods or recipes. Websites with plenty of healthy recipe ideas can be found at the end of this tip sheet.
Get into playing music, singing, storytelling, dancing and creativity to reduce your stress and keep your spirit strong. Make a deadly playlist. Draw, paint, write, create something new like a garden. Talk to your Elders over the phone and learn about the music and stories of Country. Take up a hobby. Use the time to grow and learn. When we are creative, it takes our mind away from our worries and helps us to be innovative and to heal. It can give us joy in difficult times. This is especially important for children.
You might find yoga, meditation and mindfulness helpful, and there’s also dadirri – the deep, spiritual reflection that our mob have been doing for thousands of years. They bring the body and mind together through breathing, physical relaxation or silent listening. To find out more see: https://www.miriamrosefoundation.org.au/about-dadirri. Sometimes it is hard to switch off and relax when you feel really stressed. Some people find it easier to do something active first and then chill.
Check in with your kids regularly but especially if they’re behaving differently. Kids get stressed too. Talk to them about what they’re hearing and how they are feeling about the virus. Let them ask questions, be honest with them but explain things in a child friendly way. Take a bit of extra time to let them know you’re there to keep them safe. If they’re worried about grandparents or family, putting them on the phone for a yarn can make everyone feel better. And of course, be clear about what kids should do, like washing their hands, to stay healthy. Kids will feel better if they also know what they can do to help, like cleaning up or helping with the younger kids. Don’t fill up too much of their time with activities, give them some space to explore and be creative as well. But do spend good time together, playing, singing, reading and give reassurance when necessary. Try and keep routines as much as possible and especially for mealtimes and sleep. Sometimes kids need time away from all the tensions in the house so use distraction, stories or games to keep them happy.
It is our way to make sure Elders are doing okay. So, it’s important we protect them and make sure they don’t get the virus. It’s tough, but for most of us that means staying away, and keeping the kids away, until the virus is under control. It’s better to speak on the phone, by Facetime or Skype. And you can leave groceries or medicine for them at the front door too if they need it. They need to know they’re safe, you’re safe and that you’re there for them.
Our people are good at looking after everyone else but not so good at looking after ourselves. Take some time out to make sure you are ok. Do things that make you feel good and build your strength. If you are strong and happy, this will help others to do the same, especially kids.
Everyone will be stressed at a time like this. We’re all sharing the worry and dealing with the virus in our own way. And most of us are stuck indoors and seeing the same people day in and day out. People may react in unexpected ways when stressed. Try and understand how they are feeling and see if you can help. It’s important to put yourself in the place of others at this time, to keep as calm as we can, and be as kind as we can. But it’s also important to recognise and tell your family when you need time out and accept that others do also. If problems are serious, extra help may be required. Don’t let things get out of hand.
Wherever you can, make some part of where you live your own space –a small corner, a chair, or a room. Add a plant, a cushion, whatever makes you calm and happier. Create your own space and respect other people’s need for space as well. If you like listening to music or watching TV, try using headphones to keep the noise down for others. If you’re working from home, try to set up a separate space so you can feel the difference between work and home.
Think about all the things that keep you and your family strong and what you might need to help. Learn some new ways to talk about what is going on with the family. Make sure you check in with everyone and see how they are going. Do a check on yourself, how are you going? What do you need so you can stay strong to help others? Plan with family or friends what you will do once the virus is under control – go on a holiday, go to the beach, have a party or catch up with your grannies….
You may have new or additional money worries until the virus is under control. Its ok to get some support, many people will be in the same boat. If you feel like you need help paying the rent or bills, or affording food and essentials, talk to someone for free advice at https://ndh.org.au/ and find out more about Australian Government financial supports at: https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/individuals/subjects/payments-and-support-for-indigenous-australians
It’s important to keep your lungs strong and healthy because the lungs are particularly vulnerable to virus infection. Despite the added stress, aim to cut back or quit if you can. Now might be a great time to chat with Quitline or download the MyQuitBuddy app (links are at the end of this tipsheet). But if you have to smoke, wash your hands with soap as much as possible because otherwise you could be transferring the virus from your hands to your mouth with the cigarettes. It is also important to not smoke inside or around kids and family to keep them and their lungs healthy.
In times of stress, it might feel normal to reach for a drink. But think first – How might my drinking affect others in the house? Is drinking becoming the main way I am coping with the coronavirus? Talk to your doctor or health service if this is the case. It might be the time to start thinking about how to cope better and get your wellbeing back on track
Finally, remember to dial 000 in an emergency where you or someone you know is in immediate danger, or go to your nearest hospital emergency department.